Take Care of “YOU”
It is 9pm the kids are still up, the kitchen is a mess, and you have a huge presentation tomorrow!!
All you want to do is fall on your knees in the middle of the kitchen, wave your arms in the air and cry……this is we know is not possible, but the thought sure feels good.
After a separation you need to Take Care of You. For days, months or even years you have pondered what it would be like without the fighting and the tension between you and your spouse.
It was hard though to imagine what it would be like taking care of the house, the kids, the shopping, cooking, repairs, the dog, and of course working full time.
You are in the thick of it, and somehow you are getting lost in the days. The do list is on the fridge, and everyday it seems that nothing is being crossed off. Somehow it appears that every day it gets longer and longer.
It is time to sit on the kitchen floor and think about YOU!! What makes you happy? Even if all you have is 20 min a day, you will need to find something that puts a smile on your face, and you know it is because “YOU ARE WORTH IT”.
This is where you will really need to do some soul searching. If you only have a short amount of time daily you need to decide what really makes you happy. It is important to have a few things that you can turn into “ME” time. A few things could include; reading, walking, writing in a journal, coffee with a friend, mediating, exercising or just sitting in a quiet corner with the lights low, and a candle flickering in the background.
It is so important to take care of yourself while you are trying to take care of everyone else, especially during a time of emotional turmoil. You need to have your strength to deal with all that will be coming your way.
One other way of taking care of yourself is too look into the support groups that are available in your area. You need to remember that you are not alone! There are thousands of people in the same position, and going through the same emotions you are. Just simply sharing some of your concerns with others can ease the pressure.
These groups can be found on the internet or please feel free to contact us, and we would be more than happy to let you know what is available in our community.
Beverly MacKay
Family Law Clerk
705-252-3817
